Your life's purpose is everywhere, in everything and in everybody! Maybe you've been taught to look for meaning only in the practical things you experience, like work or love. When you act and you reach successful outcomes, you feel that you've found your meaning, your purpose and it makes sense, right?

But have you ever thought that maybe you can find meaning in those apparently meaningless moments? When you're feeling low and when the storm you're going through seems like it will never pass, hook on meaning! Clench on what pain is trying to show you! Use your suffering to propel yourself into a whole different and improved phase of your life!

When you're in pain and you feel like you're out of any other resources to change the situation, maybe this is a sign that you're the one who needs to change. This is precisely the lesson those low moments are trying to teach you, this is the meaning within them!

It's true, you won't see it from the very beginning, as it is not that visible, but if you look a little closer, you'll most likely see meaning bloom and opening the door to the next level in your existence. Ultimately, life is constantly changing, it brings new challenges which you need to adequately face if you want to move forward and you need to keep up with everything!

New situations require new attitudes, new ideas, new keystones. And here comes into the scene the meaning pain can provide you with. When you're down there, in the dark corners of your suffering, keep those eyes opened, so that you don't miss the sign telling you that it's time for your entire being to change old beliefs, old behaviors and so on and so forth.

Think of suffering and pain like a free lesson that you're gifted with, as the new life you're being pushed towards to requires you to change, to let go of the old you which will never be able to keep up with this new life rhythm.

Even when you don't want to see it, the meaning of life is there, somewhere, but it's there...it's everywhere!

Don't force relationships! Don't become a burden for others to carry! If others will feel that your presence is needed, then they will ask for it. You can't just force people to be with you if they don't truly feel this.

Most of the time, this need of yours to keep people as close as possible can be very well translated as a cry for help. You are not enough for yourself and so you need other people to bring you the feeling of being alive. Socializing is extremely healthy, but only if you do it in the right way, as in this closure being wanted by both parts.

First and foremost, you need to fill yourself up, you need to be able to sit with yourself, with both the good and the bad parts. Only after you'll be fully aware of what you represent and that you are the best presence for yourself, you'll be able to have healthy human contact.

Actually, you can have social contact whenever you want, but do it in the most natural way, without resisting any refusal you might get. Not everybody has to like you and has to need your presence and this is fine!

This is how your system is built: to need certain things and, most importantly, certain people. You are built in such a way that you need only the presence of certain people and, on the same thinking pattern, you need to be liked only by some souls. No matter what you do and how much effort you put out there, you will never get to convince all people to "buy" what you're selling, yourself that is. And this happens precisely because they don't need you. This doesn't mean that you're less worthy of this life just because some people didn't receive you with arms wide open.

It's most natural for things to happen like this! The moment you start forcing relationships and you push yourself in doing something that's entirely unnatural, you will, most certainly, feel the effects which won't be very pleasant. Not everybody has to like you and this is just fine!








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Don't hold yourself a prisoner to some mistake you've done in the past! It makes no sense to keep your heart trapped in the same feelings, as now you're in a completely different place in your life.

Any mistake you make is just an exam which, even though you've failed at, represents an important lesson to help you open the door to a new and improved life.

We all make mistakes, sooner or later because nobody's perfect. You can't just constantly keep your guard up, by always choosing the right thing to say and the right  thing to do. You're not a robot!

In fact, you sometimes need those mistakes, like bad decisions or some words you just put out there without thinking them through. This is the only way you'll get access to deeper layers of your mind while you're trying to figure out solutions to make things right again. It's like life gives you the chance to knock on several doors until one opens and gives you access to a new part of your life.

Actually, this is what life is all about: a duality of negative and positive. You need both because you would, most certainly, not be able to survive only with the good, basically numb by all comfort's pleasure. Maybe you'd become bored because feeling well all the time is not necessarily the key to living the good life.

You need those moments requiring you to use your mind, to use your body because this is how you'll keep on properly functioning. The more you use them, the better your whole system will work and trying to solve an issue a mistake you did lead to, is the perfect occasion.

Therefore, it's not worth it to focus too much on a past's mistake. Of course, you acknowledge it, you learn your lessons and you move forward. And who knows? You might figure out that it wasn't a mistake after all...







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Always stay balanced! Never rush into speaking, into reacting. Don't immediately judge the words coming to you. Let them flow a little in your mind, digest them well and only then verbally react, if you truly feel like it.

When you listen more and talk less, you're giving yourself the time to truly understand if what you're hearing is worth reacting to. You're allowing yourself the time, even if it's just a couple of seconds, to ask yourself if you should consume energy to respond.

Mind your inner balance and don't allow an impulse to dictate your attitude, by speaking some words which you'll later regret saying. It's true...the need of responding, of reacting, can fool you, but you need to control it, so that it doesn't control you.

The good news is that you can train it, you can teach it to dance on your own music, so to speak. By giving it your time and your patience, this need of always impulsively responding to every word you're hearing, will no longer burn that intensely.

Value your inner balance and always put it first! 









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You don't build self-esteem over night! You need to practice it as much as possible. You need to basically throw yourself in the uncomfortable, blindly even, because this is the only way you'll get to another level in  your life.

The longer you expose yourself to the "new", to the uncertain, the more you'll get to develop yourself. You can't just sit around and wait for some sort of divine force to come and gift you with some self-esteem. You build it, brick by brick, layer by layer. You need to put yourself in motion, so that your whole system comes in contact with situations, with people, no matter how uncomfortable this might feel.

Life offers you a whole range of resources which can greatly take part in building a better, an improved version of yourself. You can take from them as much as you like and whenever you feel like it. You just have to want it.

So train yourself as much as possible, take big bites out this life because this is the only way you'll get to explore and by exploring, you make yourself react at different stimulus, like circumstances and people. By reacting, you get to know yourself better and you get a sense of what you're truly made of.

By diving deeper into life, you'll get to fully trust your strength because you'll know how to deal with the "new", with the "uncertain", with the "uncomfortable".

Practice, practice, practice!











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Be here, in this very moment with both your mind and heart! Do good and do well so that you can fill up your present with positive. If you put in some effort now and you build up a balanced present, you'll prevent your future from being overwhelmed by sorrow and regrets.

Take advantage of the "now" and make it a great memory for the future present. Think about it: the present you're living now is not going to last forever because at some point it will become the past, as a new present will take its place.

Therefore, wouldn't you like that the present you're living now become a beautiful and inspiring memory for the new present which will come? Fully engage yourself in the "now", squeeze everything from it so that your heart will be at ease, as you've done everything possible to live in the moment.

Don't make room for regrets and be in the present!







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Don't be afraid to speak, to put into words whatever it is that is crossing through your mind! Of course, if you feel that what you could say might have a positive impact on the situation, on the person you're speaking with, then talk!

Use this voice that you've been gifted with, because it can be the most valuable tool. However, you'll need to train it so that it doesn't say everything running through your head.

Give voice only to those thoughts that, once put out there, will bring you the satisfaction that they're heavy enough to improve whatever circumstance you'd find yourself in. Don't talk just to hear your voice! Do it so that it means something!

Always talk with your head!








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