How to deal with a bad feeling

In just a moment, your whole mood can change. It happened to me, so I’m talking from my own experience.

The other day, I had this feeling, a really suffocating one, that I am lost and suddenly…I started to cry. Why? I have no idea, but I just let those tears go down my cheeks. I thought to myself that my system needs this, so I cried.

I felt like this feeling was wondering around me, going in all corners and even showing its face through the window of my eyes, like the heavy tears that felt like they were making a duct on my complexion. However, I didn’t fight it, I just let it be.

My hand was trembling, while trying to hold a cup of tea. It amazed me, but I said to myself that it’s just a symptom and I’ll let it do its show. I didn’t judge, I didn’t label it, I didn’t even try to give it a name.

Something quite interesting happens when you let a bad feeling happen, when you just let it be. It is even better when you notice the observer’s position that you’re in because you don’t give it power by trying to inhibit it, you just step away and look at what it can do while you just give it the impression that you’re not paying attention. But you do…

Behind the courtain of wisdom you look at it, completely in control and not letting yourself act, as this bad feeling can have various ways of making you react in your disadvantage. You are in complete control!

As it wonders and wonders, searching for a reaction from your part, this bad feeling begins to get bored. This happens because it can’t nurture itself, as you’re not reacting to it, you’re just observing it. And so it starts to fade until it no longer has power over your inner kingdom. In fact, you are the only king or queen of your empire!

So let those bad feelings happen, without reacting towards them! Just observe them and witness the magic!

Did this ever happen to you?

My good word for you:


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Life sometimes has this mischievous way of putting you down. It's like you literally fall into a hole and you feel paralysed, stuck, with nothing to do or say. It's like a force which keeps you away from any attempt of recovering. No matter how hard you try to move in some direction, either left, right, towards or backwards, you just cannot move. What is this?

I've been asking myself this question for a couple of months now, but I haven't found a decent answer.  It's like my whole system needed this pause from everything and at some point, I got really tired from constantly fighting against this wall that had risen in front of me. I just let myself go with the flow and eventually, like the clouds that move on the blue sky, my wall went down, slowly, but surely. Needles to say how rejuvenated I felt and how full of energy and desire to start living... But what did make me rise up?

Well, my honest answer is that I have no idea. It just happened and it might had something to do with the fact that I stopped fighting that force which initially brought me down...really, really down.
I won't even try to label it because it won't do me any good. I'm pretty sure many would immediately find a name for this condition I went through. I just want to share with you how it impacted me. I won't pull any science fiction narrative style on you because it's not who I am. Just real facts and real feelings!

Waking up in the morning was no problem for me, as it never was. However, not long after having my breakfast, I would instantly go into this "zombie" state, feeling tired, as if after a long and stressful day. Now, when I think about it, I can firmly say that it wasn't my diet that was "holding me back", nor my sleep schedule, as I would get really good nights' sleeps, like never before, actually. It was just something which was constantly on within me. It felt like a constant vibration, like a continuous jiggle, or something like that. But I was also feeling tired, or at least this is what I thought it was.

The idea is that, even though I would eat well and sleep well, I still felt like my body was trying to tell me something. As far as my workout routine is concerned, I didn't have one, but I would be quite active all day long, like doing all kinds of stuff around the house, walking my dog on the beach, which required me to go down and eventually up quite a lot of stairs. It felt like doing exercise, even though it was not something organised and scheduled, like a normal workout routine, but still, it made me not feel any back pains or other such aches. However, I still felt tired, or at least, this is how I call it,because I don't have any other name for it.

So what was wrong with me? What was keeping me back from writing each day, from reading and from singing, three of the things that I like to do the most?

If I'd try to answer these questions, I would probably repeat myself with the "my body needed a break" because it's the only thing that comes in my mind. The thing is that this blockage felt right, felt like something that I had to do, as it was not bringing me any prejudice. Well, practically speaking, it was, because I went through a couple of months without writing and reading and singing, but in my heart, I felt calm and I would dare to say even balanced. Balanced and tired, that is. So how can one feel well when one cannot do the things which one likes the most? Weird, right?

Was it really tiredness that which I felt, considering that I would still do things? Maybe yes, maybe not, I still didn't figure it out.

Did this ever happen to you? If it did, maybe you can give me a clue to try and understand what I went through.

Oh, and the moral of my little story: Don't consume yourself too much with the negative in your life! Just let it happen and always remember that it's just a phase and it will eventually pass.

Take care of your souls!

It is what it is…eventually, at some point in your life, you will feel bad, you will go through some low moments. This might be too harsh for your ears to handle, but it is the reality you and I and everyone around us will face sooner or later. Everybody says that it all boils down to how you look at it and it makes sense. You can get over your suffering by seeing it just as another lesson you are gifted with, or you can see it as a joke that life pulls on you with no bad intention at all. There are several scenarios you can go through with your suffering, if you choose to, of course. However, the thing that all these alternatives have in common is that, no matter how you decide to deal with your low moments, you will have to go through them.

Avoiding bad thoughts, or the effects of some bad decisions you made or some people that you just don’t want to deal with is not going to work. At least, it will not work in your best interest, better said. As much as you force your entire system to ignore the negativity, you won’t get to remove it completely from your life. No matter how big of an effort you’ll put out there just to cover up the bad, it will eventually rise and bloom when you least expect it.

The fact of the matter is that your soul cannot hold too much of it, it has its limits. Throwing those bad thoughts, for instance, in the drawers of your heart, locking them up and throwing away the key won’t work either. They will grow and grow until they will basically break out of there.

Such thoughts are similar to those nasty weeds messing with our beautiful flowers. No matter what you do, they will still show up. You could turn to all sorts of special solutions to poison them, but these won’t do your flowers any good, right? So the healthiest and safest way to deal with them is to actually confront them and pull them out with your own bare hands.

This is exactly what you should do with those low moments life offers you from time to time. You have to go through them to get over them. There is no other way, anyway you’d choose to think about it. You just have to live them and let them fade away because this is what eventually happens: they toss you and they turn you on all sides until they get bored of you.

Now, if you have enough control over yourself and you can continue living your life with this negativity’s noise on the background, then you’re more than fine! We need to understand that bad thoughts, moments when we’re not at our best represent a significant part of our experience and we should never reject them. We cannot control them, but we can control our reaction toward them. We can decide what we’re going to do with these apparently bad gifts life has offered us because such gifts are the best teachers we’ll have.

So here’s an idea: next time you feel bad and stuck in front of an event taking you by surprise, just let it happen. Challenge yourself to see how far you can go with it. Get to feel it in its fullness and cry your tears, sleep on it as much as you feel like and eventually, have a good laugh about it. We only have one life to live and no matter what we do, we’re not getting out of it alive, as many other people have pointed out. So let that bad feeling fulfill its mission within you and be wise enough to get your lessons out of it! Don’t be afraid of it and don’t reject it because you’ll make it even more powerful. You can indeed make friends with your suffering.

Why is it so difficult to leave aside that grumpy face that gives rise to the deepest wrinkles your skin can bare? It happens because you are a puppet! Yes, you are a puppet of your thoughts and of others’ opinions. You basically ignore what your heart tells you and you make your mind the queen which completely reigns over your entire kingdom. Now this would’ve been great, but the mind usually comes up with the cheekiest thoughts and if you’re not appropriately trained to manage them, they can easily throw you into the mud.

But what if you’d stop this foolishness and you’d start to admire the sky? Just stop and stare at it for a little while. It’s so beautiful and you have those two eyes to see it. Isn’t this something to be grateful for? Just think of all those people deprived of witnessing nature’s beauty and cursed to live in darkness. Be happy with those two eyes you have that serve you so many astonishing views from mother nature!

It’s hard to be happy sometimes because you forget to open your eyes and let them do what they do best: see the beautiful things around you. We are, indeed, surrounded by beauty and even when we’re too focused on what’s not working in our lives, it is still there, waiting to be admired by us. In fact, this is what beauty wants and needs: to be admired.

We’re bombarded from every side with the phrase: “Happiness is in the little things”. Nothing more true than that, but how do you actually get to see and feel that happiness existing in the little things? Well, just stop looking for it. The fact of the matter is that the more you struggle to find it, the smaller are the chances that you’ll actually achieve it.

It’s that path toward happiness that actually gives rise to good feelings and contentment. It’s those bumps in the road that can teach us the greatest lessons and once we get over them, the satisfaction filling our heart is priceless.

There may be several doors to go through until you arrive at your destination, which is happiness. This is what we all want, right? To be happy and content with our lives. Well, each of us will have a certain road to take and this is exactly what we should be focusing on. The solutions we’ll figure out on the road, the more we’ll get to know ourselves in all types of situations, either positive or negative and all types of behaviors we’ll get to witness, not only coming from us, but also from people around us…all these should comprise a unique blend of happiness, contentment and satisfaction that we get to experience variety in our lives.

So we have everything we need to be happy exactly under our nose. However, why is it so hard to be happy?

You know those words that keep popping in your head? It's that self-talk that you keep giving to yourself and, most of the time, you don't even acknowledge the immense impact it has on yourself. Every single word you tell yourself will, in some way or another, guide you towards feeling something, towards behaving in a certain way and you won't even notice it because it's all happening at a subconscious level.

The same is valid for every content that you let inside, like a movie or a book or a talk with somebody. Everything that you invite within will impact you and the sooner you understand this, the sooner you'll be able to properly build your life.

Self talk should be something you serve on a daily basis and you should go for the high quality one. Talk the good and positive talk, so that you can walk the right walk! If you make a mistake, don't beat yourself too much for it. Instead, you could say "Good for you! Another lesson to be learned!" This should be the attitude you have in every low moment because it is the only way that will help you get over it. Staying too much in the pool of guilt and regret will make you soak so much that you'll become heavier and heavier and moving forward will become extremely challenging.

So why don't you give this a try? For one whole week, surround yourself only with good, positive content. Also, if during that week, you'll go through a stressful situation, just bear with that initial feeling of anxiety, of frustration, but don't linger too much on it. This means that you should not switch it on all sides and overthink it because this is how you'll give it enough energy and power to keep messing with your head. Keep telling yourself that it will pass, that it is just a phase and later on you'll just laugh when remembering about it. Just try this for one whole week and see the effects.




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Do you ever feel stuck? Do you ever feel like life weighs a ton and you have to carry it on your back all by yourself? This usually happens when the way you think and see the world no longer identifies with the times you're living in. Maybe you should consider deprogramming yourself from the way you were taught that life should be lived.

Since we are little kids, absorbing everything we see around us like sponges, in front of our eyes there is this movie we are, in some way or another, forced to watch. We cannot leave if we don't like it, but we have to watch it and what is even more frustrating is that we have to behave and think exactly as this movie shows us.

The main actors in this movie are our parents. They are the ones who, with the mental and material means they have at their disposal, teach us about life, after they too have been taught by their own parents to behave in a certain way. So humans teach humans and the whole process is not even close to perfection because perfect is only the creation of the mind. So, you should take into account the fact that maybe the way you've been taught to see the world might not be fit for what your soul truly needs.

We come into this world THROUGH our parents and they are a sort of filter which we have to go through in order to step into this world. In the whole process of going through this filter, there are high chances that we'll take with us some traits which are that genetic inheritance. 

But we can change the programming and we have to do it if we feel that we can no longer cope with life. There are chances that what you've been taught will not help you have a good experience in this life. You have to build that life that makes you feel content and you have all the skills to do it. You just have to do...








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