A letter to myself...

Dear Anca Gabriela,

I'm writing these lines just to let you know that I forgive you. I forgive you for all those years where you forgot about yourself and you've listened to what others had to say. You don't have to beat yourself up no more because I forgive you.

I forgive you for all those weak moments when you've acted under the authority of destructive feelings, such as jealousy or envy. You have a good soul, an unique one which has the sole purpose of not bothering others. This is exactly why, many times, you forgot about yourself just so that you don't get to bother other people. You've always stopped yourself each time you felt like you're better, more advanced than others, so that they don't feel inferior to you. I forgive you for all this time where you've covered yourself just so that you don't get to be seen in your whole splendor. 

I forgive you for all the situations where you've lost control with your loved one. You love him immensely, but he will never get to provide you with the happiness you want if you don't give it to yourself, first of all. I forgive you and I advise you to keep moving forward in this wonderful relationship, with ups and downs.

I forgive you for all the moments when you've lost it and you've blamed your parents for your misfortune. Only YOU can change your life, as your parents have nothing to do with this. They've done their best with all they knew back then. Have respect for them and love them just for who they are! You came into this world through them and you can create a different life!

I hope you'll have the power to keep on pushing yourself in order to continue this path of self-improvement that you've started. Don't give it up and do not let anything or anybody to stop you. You have within you an unthinkable power and your potential is limitless. Respect your being and keep on training your control until it will become your best friend. 

Never worry about those low days. They are the best lessons you'll get, so take full advantage of them, so that they don't take advantage of you and don't let them stop you from believing that you can, that you are worthy!

Anca-Gabriela, YOU are an amazing human being who will get to accomplish many wonderful things throughout this life! The best advice I can give you is to never stop! Have faith in whatever it is that your heart tells you and don't allow anything or anybody to disturb you!

I love you and I have faith in you!

Are you really going to keep on suffering? Are you really going to keep on living outside of yourself? Because this is exactly what happens when we torture our soul with frustration and anger: we forget about ourselves and we surrender to whatever external aspect caused such negative feelings in the first place. Once we take a deep breath in and we become aware of our being, feeling grateful for the simple fact of being alive, all the negativity starts to dissipate. 

In fact, one cannot feel angry and grateful at the same time, right? Just fill yourself with all the gratitude your heart can feel because you are alive, you can breath and so, you can make something of this life. Yes, it's pretty bad to go through low moments, but just go through them and move on. If such hard times don't imply the loss of a loved one or an accident or a fatal disease, and you're just down due to something that somebody did to you or simply commented on you, you should shake yourself a little and acknowledge that these are just little bumps on your road towards greatness.

If you have a roof over your head and you have as much water at your disposal as possible, then you are fine! Think  about what your life would've been like if you had to sleep in the cold and be at the mercy of other people...not a pretty picture, right?

Always be grateful for everything you have and leave aside the small things, like a bad comment someone made about you or that you didn't find the shirt you wanted. Find your happiness in what truly nurtures your soul, like quality time spent with your loved ones, a walk in the park with your dog. But hey! If a good, quality shirt is something you're passionate about, go for it, but only if it really makes your heart vibrate in a good frequency.

Try to really acknowledge the place you're in in your life and ask yourself if it's really that bad. But be truthful! Is it really worth it to loose yourself for whatever it is that you're feeling down? You be the judge...but be an honest one! 






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This is the time to do! This is the moment to start becoming aware that you are alive and you have so many experiences waiting to be lived! Take a moment to breath in deeply. Did anybody charge you for that? Did you feel guilty for it? I dare to say that no, you didn't and this is because it's free. It was given to you as the fuel to survive, to keep living this life. You were gifted with it!

Did you do something to earn it? Did you put in some effort for it? No, you didn't, I dare to say. You just got it, for free. You were blessed to breath in and out the air. You were chosen to live! So why not truly experience this life and do whatever it is that you dream of? Why not go in that trip now? Why not tell that person that you love her? Why not get rid of the fear and courageously execute on everything you're thinking of? There must be a reason why you're thinking of doing certain things and it might be because you need to do them...just like that.

So laugh the laugh, live in the moment and give some love! Be polite and give a hand each time you have the chance! Just...live!







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Friday Reminder: There are no limits to what you can create!

Life is this wonderful experience which you are entitled to have, as something or somebody decided that you are worthy of it. Out of all the possibilities of a human being, you were chosen to walk around this world with a certain energy which your unique soul holds. You were offered a baggage filled with all sorts of tools, some good and some bad, but all of them were put at your disposal to be used whenever and however you want. These are feelings, these are psychological skills, such as patience, will, control, balance and so on and so forth.

Something or somebody decided that you are worthy to occupy a certain place in this world, like the perfect piece to complete a puzzle. You were given a specific role in this scene called life and nobody could never ever play it in your place.

You were created to feel certain feelings, to meet certain people and to go through certain experiences in order to gradually figure out what this life is all about. You were given the chance to have a unique trip on this planet Earth and it's all free of charge. So...how come you're still sick and tired of this life?

Why would you ever curse your days just because things seem to go a little slow and not how you would like them to go? It's just a phase and this too shall pass. It's a part of your journey and you should experience it as it is because it has its specific role in your development. Just feel what ever comes to you, but never spend too much time in analyzing and finding solutions. You just have to feel it because it has been given to you as a gift of learning, of getting to know yourself more.

Think of pain: it is really unpleasant, but it will never go away if you keep tickling it, if you keep going back to it by either focusing too much on it, or even by talking about it with others. Let it happen and, when you least expect it, it will pass.

It's time to become aware of how lucky you are just to be here...






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If you'd only knew what power lies within you...Just the power of one word can change your whole life experience. "To want"...does it sound familiar? Just by telling yourself, in the mirror, that you want to get up, that you want to be better, that you want...well, basically anything, and your mind will already become alert.

Now, just by talking to yourself in  the mirror won't be enough. You need to also do because anything that you want to do, you can do, if you just do! However, it's really important to choose the good, the sweet and the honest words to tell yourself. In the end, there may be way too many bad words coming from other frustrated souls, so you'd be a genuine masochist if you'd choose to load yourself with more verbal chaos.

This power you have within you, the word's one, is like a savage animal which you can tame in the most natural and easy way if only you give it some of your time and your energy. Just think about this: if a sole bad word has the capacity to simply break a heart, this must mean that there is a great power within that word, right? So, what if a good word can have the same power, but in a more positive way? Why not use also this ability?

Be pretentious, be selective and always choose the good and healing words to nurse your ears. Don't drown in the chaotic noise coming from others! You're more powerful than you think and this makes you a real magician who, with its rod, the word that is, can do wonders!






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Do you sometimes feel like others are throwing at you comments and nothing from what they're saying is bringing you any benefit? Well, just so you know, all this might be difficult to manage only because of you. What? Have you forgotten that you're the landlord? You're the one building chaos and you're the one to break it down, as well. You're the one creating frustration and you're the one removing it, as well.

Reality is that sometimes, if not all the time, we need to experience a little bit of tension, just to keep the soul balanced. However, you're in charge of this game called life. All the other people around you are just the pawns on your chessboard. Also, you're the Dj of all the sounds coming from them, as you can mix them as you please, just to not let them sour your heart.

These sounds are those "mighty" opinions coming from those around you who are basically thirsty to get all the good energy out of you. Most of the time, such stubborn sounds might wish to stay longer within your head, but, eventually, they'll have to bow to your orders when you'll tell them to leave.  Because you have the power to guide them to the exit door, if they may forget that guests come, but they also need to leave. This is the key: those comments are just guests, so treat them like so! Observe them, but have the righteous courage to invite them to leave.

All this is just a game, so play with everything you hear from the outside! Don't take everything you hear as rules according to which you should live! Take this life as a game and have some fun!







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